Finally Free....

Yesterday I had an interview. It was one of the toughest interviews I have ever been in. This put down every thing I talked about. Criticized my work history. I held my ground but I left there feeling very low. Feeling like I had been a failure in my life. I quickly said a prayer of simply God have your way about this. I already have a job and its not the end of the world if I don't get it.
Just as I was talking about this with a friend. The email came in. I had gotten the job! It's more money than I have ever made since my Value American days. It will allow me to not be so under the gun with money and bills. It will give me a financial freedom I have prayed for and wanted for years. It is out of sales. I have prayed and asked God to get me out of sales. I just was not cut for sales any longer. Meeting quotas, asking people to buy. I had just burned out from that. But God answered just in time. I think about that gospel song. He may not come when you need him but he will be there right on time.
Thank God I never gave up looking for that right job. Thank God he when in his time answered my prayers!

Prayers

I have been more in tune with my Higher Power lately. Just turning things over to my Higher Power more and more. I realized that I had no other choice. It was either drive myself crazy with anxiety or just pray and turn it over. Funny how things seems to huge and overwhelming until you take care of them and just move on.

I have been thinking a lot of about my life and what it means and how content I am. I don't have a lot of money, behind on some of my bills but I am happy, joyous and free. I am content. It's a good feeling.

Not Regret The Past

I have been thinking a lot about my past. What if I had done this, or what if I had done that. In the end it really does not matter what I have done before. It is what am I doing with it at this moment? I can be a victim of my past or I can be a survivor. Today I choose to be a survivor. I choose to take my life and do something with it.
I have been feeling a little down lately and wondered why. I realize now it is because of possibly some medication issues. I really looked deep to find the source of why I was always so tired. This is call taking care of myself. This is something that I would have never done in the past. I would have let things go until it is was a critical moment. I am going to a therapist for the first time because I want to. Not because someone is making or suggesting that I go. But because I want to go. Big change.
The 9th Step Promises are coming true. I am amazed at where I am. These last few months have been a huge financial strain. Most of the time I have very little money to live off of after I pay bills. Being off for a month or so really put me behind. I am now playing catch up and most times it seems like I will never catch up. But as the 9th step promises has told me Fear of economic insecurity will leave. I no longer have that fear. I have faith. I have faith that the God I serve will take care of me. It is so true. I don't ever get an abundance but I get just what I need to get by. Some day my life will not be just getting by. Some day it will be about making it and enjoying life. That means not having that financial cloud hanging over me. It will be okay. I will be okay.

My Past No Longer A Victim

So next week for my job I have to meet with the man who 36 years ago raped me. I knew his first name but never knew his last name until today. He owns a lot of property here and I will be asking for his business. I know he won't remember me now I am male and have lost a lot of weight. I am sure if I were still a female he might remember me.
How do I feel about this? I really don't have any feelings about it at all. I am no longer living in that space 36 years ago. I am no longer a drunk or a drug addict. I took the role of victim away long time ago. I am a survivor. I will admit when I saw his picture in my bosses office today I cringed inside a little bit. For a moment came the feelings of being violated. But just as quickly as they came they went. I knew I was no longer that confused 17 year old. I realized that when I got in that car I knew what was going to happen. I knew that he was just not buying me booze to buy and drink we me. These are the things I knew because I have done a 4th step in my recovery. Looking at my part. Owning up to it. Moving on. Life now has a whole new different meaning for me. I will never forget what happened but I will never live in it again.

Just Want To Be A Guy

Life as a trans man is difficult. It really takes a lot of strength to come out and be who you truly are. Deep in my soul I am so comfortable with who I am. I am comfortable being the man that I am becoming.
It's times like going to the doctor that is hard. Having to take my shirt off and reveal my breasts. I want them gone. It takes so much to take the shirt off and then the binder. Exposing what I don't want to expose is women's parts.
I had to do that yesterday at the doctor. Just being exposed as a woman takes a lot out of me. I just want to be a guy. They are setting up an appointment for GYN and I know that will be another moment. What will I look like in the waiting room at the GYN office? I don't want to be treated special. I just want to be treated with respect.
One day I won't have the breast to worry about. That will be a great day. It will be a day that I will truly be free to express who I am. As for now I just humble myself and keep on moving.

Tears

Last night I cried. Normally I would not make such a big deal out of this. I cried because I miss my Mother. I cried because for the first time I felt alone. I felt like I was just needed to be close to her. I have been missing my Mother a lot these last few days. I just never thought about what it would be like once she is gone. It's a hole in my heart. In the past I will fill that hole with drugs, alcohol and even food. Today I let the feelings flow and that is okay. It's okay to just say I am sad and move through it. I am doing what I need to do to get by. If I cry tonight that is okay too.

Starting Therapy Again

So its time to get back on the sofa and start therapy. I have been battling a little depression. I want to address it before it gets out of hand. Man that is different in the past I would have been putting it off until I just had to do something. I see so much growth in my life. I know things are different with. Is it because I am sober or is it my transition? Maybe its a little bit of both. I think after working with Jen I was afraid I would never connect with a therapist the way I did with her. I have come to realize that everyone is different. I have to accept that what Jen brought to the table for me is not what someone else will bring.
I encourage everyone who is in transition to get therapy and if possible continue for a long time. Things change in our lives. We have to be ready for the change. I had Jen when I first came out about my transition. I had Michael as I was in my beginning stages. I will use this person for my maintenance. I have so much to be thankful for right now in my life. Finances are not good but other parts of my life is great. I am feeling more secure in who I am. I am ready for my next stage in life.